Phone the National Domestic Abuse Helpline
FREE 24 HOURS A DAY.
0808 2000 247
If you are in danger, call 999.
If you can't talk safely, the phone operator will ask you to respond using a cough or other audible indication you need help.
If you are unable to make any sound at all, you will be put through to Silent Solution which will ask you to press 55 to be put through to your local police force.
The BT operator will remain on the line and listen. If you press 55, they will be notified and transfer the call to the police. If you don’t press 55, the call will be terminated. Pressing 55 does not allow police to track your location.
Using yes and no questions the police will then try and communicate. If you are unable to speak, listen carefully to the questions and instructions from the call handler so they can assess your call and arrange help if needed.
Your partner might say that if you leave:
- you'll never cope on your own
- you won't keep the kids
- you'll have no money
- nobody will help you
- you'll get sent "back home"
- your family will disown you
- you'll lose everything
- the community will shun you
It's not true.
People can help.
Other people have gone before you and they have escaped.
You are not alone.
Many people don't realise the effect that living in a house with an abusive parent can have on a child. People think that as long as the child doesn't get hurt, there is no impact on them. Sadly, this is not the case. Living in a house with Domestic Abuse leaves children with a host of problems, including behaviour difficulties, anxiety, depression, friendship problems, low self-esteem, and general ill-health.
At St John's, we teach children to treat others with respect and kindness. Children who hurt others are spoken to and given a consequence. We do not tolerate abusive behaviour. However, statistics about the number of children that go home and see one of their parents abusing the other are frightening.
When children see a parent being shouted at, humiliated or physically hurt, it damages them. In fact, abusing someone when you have children in the house, is actually a form of child abuse.
St John's is a Church School and we believe that everyone is loved by God. That means it is our duty to care for everyone. If you are frightened at home and don't know who to talk to, then talk to us. We have lots of experience in supporting parents through escaping Domestic Abuse.